You know… thoughts that to others my appear trivial. Frivolous thoughts that we often apply to our lives subconsciously and somehow they evolve into these self-imposed rules… rules that we abide by with resolute dedication.
Haha… things like which direction to place the toilet paper on the holder (ahem… flap OVER in my house), what color dishes you purchase (only white for me for I love the way the clean canvas shows off the food) or what sock/shoe goes on first (left for me… always left).
I tend to do this MORE than I care to mention. My friends would probably blame it on slight obsessive compulsive tendencies… but I’m going to chalk it up to me… just being me! If I had to apply a ratio, I would say that for the most part these self-imposed rules air on a quirky side and truly are only beneficial to me. However, there are moments that merit an “ah-ha”… and these are the moments in which I feel compelled to share.
In writing my last blog, I stumbled upon yet another “note” written on Sunday, 15 March 2009.
Titled “Random thoughts regarding fashion…” I posted it on my facebook page, unsure of how it would be received. Surprisingly, those self-imposed rules generated a healthy response. Hmmmmmm… perhaps I was onto something and had I listened to the advice of others, kishafwd.com could have been established much sooner, eh?!
Not a surprise when I say that in revisiting that post, it all still rings true today. Actually… and I say this emphatically, I would say that when it comes to those fashion rules, I am steadfast. Unwavering. Haha… completely committed!
Soooooo, since I shared before, I eagerly share again. The camaraderie of womanhood is and has always been the muse.
3 years later, here it goes again… but, since I do have those “mild” obsessive compulsive tendencies, I have added just a few thoughts (possibly slight interruptions in the original flow of the post)… all noted by the italics.
Random thoughts regarding fashion…
For whatever reason, I have this overwhelming desire to write (as if I were this “in demand” stylist) a “real woman’s/on a budget, but I want to look fabulous” guide to fashion. Chuckle, if you must, but after reading, I do believe, that even the most hard to win critic, will walk away with a tip… or two.
I know, I know, you have read them in all of the magazines…
The essentials we all must own, the top 5, 10, 15, 25, gazillion things that everyone must wear… and most of us (me included) are somewhat addicted to the television shows, that steer the lost into the light… cough, cough “What Not To Wear” cough, cough…(for the record, I adore Stacy London and Clinton Kelly and would embrace an opportunity to chat with them both). So check this out, I DID meet Stacy London, 15 April 2012 and she is just as energetic and spirited as I had imagined!
Nonetheless, we read, we watch, we try and wonder… whose advice do we follow, who is right?
All of them? None of them? Some of them?
The answer: they all have something to offer. And it is just that simple.
So ladies, if it were to have a title, let’s just call it “After a bit of trial and error, Kisha recommends…”
· First and foremost, be honest with yourself, without guilt or shame and learn your body type. Embrace your assets and STOP worrying about what you don’t have. Apple, pear, hour glass shapes… narrow hips, full hips, long torso, short torso, fuller breast and smaller breast… we learned in our middle school health classes that we were built differently. So, discover what do you have. Study your nude body in the mirror, jot down a few notes and let that be your roadmap when investing in your wardrobe. The result… all future purchases will only accentuate the positive!
· Once you figure out what is going to work for you, the next objective is to find who sells it! You probably already know this, but it is worth repeating… every store is not going to work for your body type. AND, there are probably stores that will work best for you when you are looking to purchase bottoms and others, which you will go to when needing tops. This you will only discover by trying on, trying on and more trying on… perhaps a bit tedious in the beginning… but the payoff, once you discover “who” is for you… priceless! All I will add is this: Ladies, as we age… we must be willing to let go of some of the stores that no longer cater to our MAGNIFICENT age and body types. There is a sophistication and incredible beauty in becoming older. Our wardrobes should reflect that attitude.
· Invest a bit of extra money, in pieces of clothing that work for you and are a necessity for your lifestyle. We all have our favorite “inexpensive” store that we frequent for that one piece, for that one event… but, we do so knowing, that after a few washes, that item has a short lifespan in our closet. But, for those key items that we need for work, or home, or all of the after work cocktail parties – spend a bit more, invest in garments made with higher quality fabrics, launder them properly and you will quickly see your hard earned dollars go further.
· Own jeans that flatter your shape. Can I say that again… own jeans that flatter your shape. Yes, this can be grueling (no joke)… Make a decision as to how much you are willing to invest, do a bit of online research and take a friend (who will be honest) with you when you trying on the various styles. Be patient and you too will have your “ah ha” moment. And, if you already have that brand loyalty, and they work for you… stick to it and invest in several pairs. A nice slim fitting jean in a dark (mildly distressed) wash takes me there!!!! YOWZA!
· With that said, and for those that know me, you will understand this next statement…
Once you find an item that works for you, purchase it in ALL of the colors that flatter your complexion. And, before you think it… no, this will not lead to a boring wardrobe. You have found the perfect fit of black pants… well; do they come in chocolate or charcoal? You found the ideal wrap sweater (my personal “I can’t live without”…gosh, truth be told, the list continues to grow and occasionally gets tweaked. But I would have to add that adding pops of animal print is a beautiful thang!) get ALL of the colors that suit you… not your friends, not the photo in the magazine, but you… only you. The fun comes in how you mix and match… reinvent the wheel, the “color wheel” that is! If you don’t own one, visit your local art store and for a few bucks, you are on your way to creating magnificent color schemes within your wardrobe.
· Last, but certainly not least… do not forget the accessories!
This is the ooooohh, laaa laaaaaahhh to defining your signature style. How many ways can you reinterpret denim and a white tank… countless, because it is all about the accessories! And, just to be clear, I am speaking about the shoes, the bag, the coat, the scarf, the jewelry, the shoes, the blazer, the tote, the earrings, the bracelet… do it right, and this will keep your secret “fashion” admirers wanting more, more and more. The lovely part about accessories is that they come in a variety of price points… and often times, if implemented correctly in your wardrobe, the least expensive of accessories, look like a million bucks! What a segue (and a shameless plug)… specking of accessories, I just celebrated my one year anniversay as a stella & dot stylist. Check me out at: www.stelladot.com/kbr and www.facebook.com/kbrstylist Not that I am pushing my favorites on anyone (which is why I haven’t mention any of my favorite stores… fashion is truly subjective and, truth be told, my favorites may not work for you body type) but… blazers are a nonnegotiable. They come in a variety of cuts and work for practically everyone! As you build you accessory wardrobe, concentrate on what you determine are your staples… then from there, the sky is the limit! Seriously… a structured blazer is a fashion lifesaver. EVERY WOMAN should own at least a classic black blazer!
Not to be interpreted as a sermon… just me, spreading some love to my fellow girls.
It is important that we all feel simply amazing in our unique skin. So, if my random thoughts gave you any insight… then I am humbled. Perhaps, as you are shopping, you will chuckle and think of me as you are looking at yourself in the mirror, trying on one of your “new” favorites!
And there it is.
And, for the record: Yes… to these rules I am forever loyal!